Red Flag Calculator — How Many Red Flags Does Your Partner Have?

Answer 20 questions about your partner’s behavior to get a red flag score — backed by relationship research from the Gottman Institute and clinical psychology literature on unhealthy relationship patterns.

 

What the Red Flag Calculator Measures

The calculator evaluates 20 behaviors drawn from relationship research, weighted by severity. The four most heavily weighted behaviors come from Dr. John Gottman’s research at the Gottman Institute — the “Four Horsemen” that predict relationship breakdown with 93% accuracy: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.

Additional factors — isolation, gaslighting, monitoring, boundary violations — are drawn from clinical psychology literature on coercive control and emotionally abusive relationship patterns identified by the American Psychological Association (APA).

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